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Losing Weight: Conversation starters

Losing Weight: Conversation starters

Talking to a family member or friend about losing weight can be hard. Use these tips to get the conversation started.

Begin by saying, “I care about you.”

  • “You are important to me, and I want you to be around for a long time.”
  • “I want you to have more energy and not worry about your health. That’s why I want to help you reach a healthy weight.”

Share what has worked for others.

Here are some ideas for losing weight in a healthy way:

  • Try losing weight slowly, about 1 to 2 pounds each week.
  • Eat smaller portions.
  • Start a food diary to keep track of what and how much you eat.
  • Eat a healthy breakfast every day.
  • Drink water instead of sugary drinks like soda or juice.
  • Be active your way. Find activities you like and do them often.
  • Do something active every day – take the stairs, go for a walk at lunch, or enjoy a family bike ride.
  • Join a walking club or support group to keep you motivated.

If you have friends, family members, or co-workers who have lost weight by eating healthy and getting active, share what worked for them. 

Do more than talk.

  • “How can I help you lose weight?”
  • “What can we do together to get healthy?”

Here are some ideas:

  • Go food shopping together. Compare food labels to make healthy choices.
  • If you go out to eat, split a meal or save half to take home.
  • Go for a walk every evening or take an exercise class together.
  • Celebrate your loved one’s weight loss, but don’t use food as a reward.