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Losing Weight: Conversation Starters

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Talking to a family member or friend about losing weight can be hard. Use these tips to start the conversation.

Start by saying, “I care about you.”

  • “You're important to me, and I want you to be around for a long time.”
  • “I want you to have more energy and not worry about your health. That’s why I want to help you reach a healthy weight.”
  • “I’m here for you. Let’s make healthy changes together.”

Share what has worked for others.

Here are some ideas for losing weight in a healthy way:

  • Set manageable goals — start by trying to lose about 1 to 2 pounds each week.
  • Start a food diary to keep track of what and how much you eat and drink.
  • Eat a healthy breakfast every day.
  • Serve yourself smaller portions.
  • Drink water instead of sugary drinks like soda or energy drinks. 
  • Do something active every day — take the stairs, go for a walk at lunch, or enjoy a family bike ride.
  • Join a walking club or support group to keep you motivated.

If you have friends, family members, or co-workers who have lost weight by eating healthy and getting active, ask them to share what worked for them. 

Do more than talk.

Find ways to get active and eat healthy together. Here are some ideas:

  • Go food shopping together. Use the Nutrition Facts label to find foods and drinks that are low in added sugars and saturated fats.
  • If you go out to eat, split a meal or save half to take home.
  • Go for a walk every day or take an exercise class together.
  • Celebrate your loved one’s weight loss — but avoid using food as a reward.

Content last updated July 21, 2023

Reviewer Information

This information on losing weight was adapted from materials from the National Institutes of Health Weight-control Information Network (WIN).

Reviewed by:
Dennis Anderson-Villaluz, MBA, RD, LDN, FAND
Lieutenant Commander, U.S. Public Health Service
Nutrition Advisor, Division of Prevention Science
Office of Disease Prevention and Health Promotion

Kara Beckman, PhD
ORISE Nutrition Policy Fellow 
Office of Disease Prevention and Health Promotion

Dana DeSilva
ORISE Health Policy Fellow 
Office of Disease Prevention and Health Promotion

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